The “No” Compromise

“My dog needs to learn what no means.”

I’ve heard this request countless times in my initial interviews with clients. They list off a number of unwanted behaviors their dog is doing and discuss how troubling it is that they aren’t responding to the word “no”. I understand, you’re human, you get frustrated and want a quick fix for your dog’s normal, but undesired behaviors. However, just like you, your dog is frustrated because every choice they make is eliciting a “no” and they just aren’t sure what you want!

I totally understand that owners aren’t just going to stop saying “no” to their dogs. Heck, I say “no” to my own dogs! But my rule for “no” is to always follow it with a “yes”, and that is the key to using “no” in a manner that will keep you and your dog content.

Picture this, your puppy is overly tired and begins to gnaw on your hand. You calmly say “no”, present a chew toy to them, and praise them when they begin to chew that instead.

Another scenario, your dog stares at you as you eat at the dining room table, their drool dripping onto the floor. You calmly say “no”, cue them to go to their bed, and give them a treat for remaining there while you eat.

By following every “no” with a “yes”, you begin helping your dog understand what you actually want and long-term you are conditioning them to make good choices on their own!